What I’ve Learnt About Being Single
Well the last few months have been a little hectic…
I’d love to say that I’ve been ridiculously busy, which I kind of have, but I’ve also had a bit of block. I’ve not known what to write, how to write it, what photos to put with what posts.
So I thought I’d come back with a post that I’ve been toying with for a little while but I decided, screw it, what harm can it do?
The past 7 months of my love life have been an absolute whirlwind and I’ve learnt a heck of a lot about both myself and the world of dating.
So let’s get crackin’!
Tinder is your best friend and your worst enemy
Oh boy isn’t this true? Not long after becoming single, one of my good friends suggested downloading Tinder just to have a nosy and to see what’s out there. I didn’t think it could do much harm so I obliged.
Having not been single for a long long time, I’d never used it before so I had no clue what to expect. I put a simple profile together with a few smiley selfies and something in my bio about liking food. Within an hour or two, I got the hang of it and I started getting matches.
It was so fun and exciting at first, chatting to new people, going on a few dates, finding people that I previously knew and it was just a hoot.
After a few months on and off of it, I started to feel like it just wasn’t for me. I’d get bored easily or people would ghost you and it just knocked my self esteem so I took it off my phone for a bit.
I’ve recently reactivated it for a few days and then felt exactly the same again so it’s officially gone again. It’s great for getting attention when you feel low but I’d much rather speak to someone organically that I’ve met in person.
Not everyone has good intentions with you
This has been a tough one to learn. I think because I’m quite an emotional person and I really like to believe everything someone tells me. But in the end, I just end up getting hurt and it’s not at all worth it!
I’d like the think I’m a lot less naive now and I’m very cautious in believing what people tell me. I’m not about letting people walk all over me so if you don’t want to tell me the truth about your intentions then the door is over to the right.
Tinder’s been especially involved with this, I’ve had some CREEPY messages in the past few months and I am not down for that, some people can down right be rude, obnoxious and just weird.
People pop up from nowhere
Now this is something I did not expect. I’ve had the odd message from people I went to school with, friends of friends, old flames, all sorts! It’s been very bizarre but I suppose you can’t predict everything.
It’s actually been pleasant in some instances to make friends with some people again and meet up for a coffee or have a catch up.
Loving yourself is so important
This one’s been the most important for me. I’ve really been working on myself and my confidence over the past 6 months and I feel like I’ve come so far. I don’t like to big myself up usually but I am so damn proud of who I am now.
I feel as though I can be 100% happy on my own and if Mr Right comes along, cool and if he doesn’t, that’s perfectly fine.
I enjoy my own company, spending time with my friends, just chilling with my family and just doing me for the first time in my life. I feel like it’s such a relief not having to think about someone else for once, I can just look after me and that’s it.
I know it’s been pretty short and sweet but that’s just where I am at the moment.
I’ll be back in a few weeks with a whole load of new flat content so keep an eye out for that!